This Sunday I preached a message called "The Man Mystery." I uncovered the 3 things every man needs. You can watch the message at http://newspring.cc/series/adamandeve/
Women, you may think that your man is confident, strong, and sure of himself. But you'd be surprised what he would tell you if he felt like he could be completely honest. So I want to tell you on his behalf. Here are 10 things that your man may have thought at some point, or may be feeling right now.
1. I am really insecure about lots of things, but especially about how I am doing as your husband.
2. I worry that you are not happy with me and that one day you will leave me.
3. I'm scared that our kids may not turn out the way we hoped they would.
4. I never feel like I have enough time for you, our family, and work. I feel like everyone wants something from me.
5. The reason I work so hard is to provide you and our family a life of security, joy, and safety, and to make you happy.
6. I often feel like you are not attracted to me.
7. I feel inadequate to be everything you ever wanted from a husband.
8. I'm afraid to tell you that I feel depressed, anxious, and sad, and that I compare myself to other husbands and fathers.
9. Your approval and affection is the one real thing in this life that gives me confidence in myself.
10. If you believe in me, I am unstoppable.
Comments
May 9 2012
Josh Evans
Thanks Clayton, your thoughts on marriage are really helping me in my relationship to my wife! I certainly appreciate it.
May 9 2012
Jay Gillitzer
Clayton, thank you. I thank God for you. This. This is what I have been trying to tell my wife for years. God Bless You!
May 16 2012
Rebecca
My husband has said almost all of these to me. It’s the last two that give me hope. I often feel like I have to do so much more than this to support him, but I need to start here- approval, affection, thinking the best of him. I can do that. Thank you for the list.
May 22 2012
Lori
What if you’re married to an able-bodied, intelligent man who won’t work and support himself or his family? 1,2,3,4,5,7,8,9,10 all take on a different meaning or don’t even apply. He creates a grand canyon of distance and avoidance of communication, so he won’t have to deal with reality of the extra burden the wife carries by being the full support of all. Please help me understand the right way to deal with this in regard to your “10 Things…”
June 6 2012
Esther
Clayton, I love being reminded of these things. I’m not married but I’ve discovered how much of this applies to the other men in my life especially my younger brothers. They are high school and college age and showing them that I believe in them has gone so far in restoring broken relationships from long before I left home. Thanks so much for sharing these
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