In a dating (talking, flirting, seeing-each-other, hooking up) relationship, you know it's over when...
1. He cannot make up his mind if he likes you or another girl
2. She is insanely jealous when you spend small amounts of time with your friends
3. When you find out they are addicted to porn
4. You see a pattern of lies and deception that goes back for months, maybe years
5. You're not married but acting like you are (i.e. having sex without the real committment of marriage)
6. You scream and yell at each other on a regular basis
7. If your boyfriend of girlfriend has ever hit you, hurt you, or threatened to harm you in any way
8. Promises made are never kept and always broken
9. You love Jesus and they don't
10. All your wise, trusted friends tell you it's over
Of course, relationships are complex. But it's not rocket science. There is a common sense aspect to dating (which should lead to marriage). Don't ignore the obvious. Do any of these touch a nerve for you?
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April 8 2012
Colleen
Clayton #3 #5 #9. ALL were red flags and did I try to look past them…yes. Did I pray that they would find God and stop watching porn…all the time. When I said I don’t want to have sex anymore they said “well that is not a relationship, we would be just friends”. I stood firm and we ended it. No sex til marriage for this gal! Clayton you led me to Jesus 6 years ago at a BCM conference in S.C. Thank you for being you!
April 8 2012
Dwayne Humphries
Clayton,
Very good points. Being married 14 years now, it is very, very easy to see that all of these points are great points! I wish I knew then, what I know now. I know most older people say this, now I realize why they say it - because it is true. Young Folks - Listen to wise CHRISTIAN people like Clayton King!
Young Folks, these are very wise words for you in a relationship. My only thing to add is to #10, I would add ‘trusted “Christian” friends’. My Christian friends mean a lot to me at age 39!
April 24 2012
Anonymous
I just broke off a seriosu relationship, and now that I look at this, I should have ended it a long time ago. We acted like we were married (without the sex) and yelled and argued what seemed like every day. This is good stuff. Thanks for posting..
May 10 2012
Anonymous
I have a question..
If one of these has been present at some point in a relationship, do you think the whole thing should just be scrapped or can it be redeemed for the better?
August 19 2012
KEBBY
thank you I now know the signs though am not yet involved.
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