My wife is great at many things, but one of her most outstanding gifts is writing.  This entry was taken from her blog at chariemagoo2.blogspot.com

So many women struggle with feeling beautiful. We want to be noticed, to be to be cherished, and to be wanted by our husbands more than any other woman. I know these feelings because I have them too. Why? I believe the healthy part of wanting to be beautiful was planted in our souls by our Creator. However, the obsessive and insecure desire for beauty is a part of our sinful nature combined with the unhealthy propaganda our world feeds us on a daily basis. Women today are inundated with products to increase eye-appeal, pills to make you skinny, workouts that shape you in six months, six weeks, or maybe even six days if you’re dedicated enough. Commercial after commercial, and show after show present images of women with the perfect body, hair, makeup, complexion, etc… Sadly enough many of these are computer generated, but after years of seeing women who seem to be the epitome of splendor, how can a woman ever get ahead (especially after you’re past age 25, and have a couple of kids in the house)? What’s the answer?

I don’t know the answer to acquiring for yourself the ultimate dream body. Many women go major lengths to accomplish this, and I’m sure some satisfaction comes out of it. However, I believe in order to find true satisfaction, somehow and someway we have to choose to accept that our Lord and our mates see us as beautiful. For years, my husband has tried to compliment me by telling me I am beautiful, and for years I have shrugged it off. I may not have done this in the early days when we first met and I was young, fit and trim, but after two kids, less work out opportunities, and lacking a summer glow, my perspective on my appearance seemed to weaken. But, what may I ask did shrugging off his compliments do for him, or me? By disregarding his opinion, I robbed myself of affection, while also making him believe I did not value his compliments toward me.

So, let’s suppose I were to change my attitude and choose to believe that my husband still sees me as the beautiful queen of his life (whether I feel like it or not). What does that do for us in the long run ? Let me share how this has changed me.

It caused me to believe he was attracted to me. It made me feel sought after, and cherished. It also made me feel like he wanted me in the biblical sense of the word, which is how it ought to be. As a result, our marriage has flourished. He feels satisfied that I believe his compliments, and I felt loved by the man who has chosen to spend his life with me. I have come to know that I am special to the one I live with daily. I choose to confide in his opinion of me rather than what the world is telling me, and as a result I also come to a better understanding of our Heavenly Father.

Psalm 45:11 says, “The King is enthralled with your beauty; honor him for he is your lord.”  The Lord is enthralled with my beauty, with me?  No he couldn’t be, I might say to myself. There are so many other things that He should be enthralled with. But, it’s right there, scripture says it, and it is true. So, will we choose to believe it? Because if He is enthralled with our beauty, and this should cause us to be enthralled with Him. Enthralled with a curiosity to know why he thinks we are beautiful. We are beautiful because He has created us this way, each and every one of us. He is in love with us, and He delights in us. We are highly valued, and a price has been paid for each and every one of us. Will we accept His compliment and draw near to Him, or explain it away and live a much more lonely life not knowing the satisfaction of His affectionate gaze. I want Him to look on me with affection and I want to soak it up, just as I have chosen to soak up my husband’s undivided attention.  I hope you want this too.